Do you really know what "psychological counseling" is?

"Wow, you are a psychology major. Don't you know what I am thinking?"

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It is believed that those who study psychology are no strangers to this sentence.

For teachers who become psychological counselors, they are often devastated by this problem.

But here, I want to ask:

If psychological consultants can really see what you are thinking at a glance, don't you feel afraid??

In China, psychological consultation is a relatively new and unfamiliar industry for everyone;

Most people still believe that only "patients" with mental problems need to do psychological counseling;

To tell the truth, I have never been exposed to the psychology editor, so I think.

But I really have a deep understanding of psychology. After I had a close contact with a psychological consultant, I learned that this is not the case!

　　 What is psychological consultation?

Psychological counseling is a psychological consultant who uses the theory and methods of psychology to help clients find their own problems and root causes, so as to tap their own potential abilities, change the original cognitive structure and behavior patterns, and improve their adaptability to life and ability to adjust the surrounding environment. In short, psychological counseling is a process in which psychological counselors help clients solve psychological problems.

Well, these words may be familiar to you, but when combined, they may make you feel difficult to understand.

Psychological consultation is a very profound subject. The knowledge reserve of professionals is very different from that of ordinary people. For example, seeing a doctor is easy to understand and common, but if you ask a doctor how he works, it is difficult to explain clearly. If you have studied medicine for five years and have studied in clinical medicine for many years, you may understand more. But not every disease can be diagnosed and treated.

Seeing psychological counseling is sometimes like seeing a doctor. Maybe you don't know its specific operation, but you know it is useful and can feel changes.

　　 So, when do you need psychological counseling?

In life, if someone takes the initiative to seek the help of a psychological consultant, it is very likely that people around him will not understand and think that he is "mentally ill". In fact, this view is very one-sided.

We should know that the objects of psychological consultation are mainly divided into three categories:

1. People who are mentally normal but have encountered psychological problems and asked for help;

2. People who are mentally normal but have mental health problems and ask for help;

3. Special objects, that is, clinically cured mental patients.

Among them, the most common objects of psychological counseling are healthy people, or sub healthy people with psychological problems, rather than the "sick people" that people often misunderstand.

You should know that any one of us may encounter some difficulties, setbacks or blows at a certain stage, resulting in various puzzles and troubles. At this time, many negative emotions will follow, even affecting our diet and sleep in serious cases. When this problem has not been improved for a long time, It can help us a lot to turn to a psychologist.

For example, due to the popularity of psychology, many families have a foresight to hire a professional psychological consultant to help children cope with all kinds of adolescent problems and help them grow better; Some people will conduct pre marital psychological counseling when they are about to enter marriage, so as to better cope with post marital role changes, different marriage stages, marital sex life and other situations; Some people will conduct personal growth consultation after independence to explore their past, present and future

　　 Then someone will ask: Can consultants help me by listening to me?

In psychological counseling, the role of a counselor is really a well-trained listener. Of course, it is not just simply listening, but also really "listening" to the facts, feelings and ideas that the other party tells, so as to achieve empathy with the visitors.

Through listening, the consultant can understand the psychological problems of the visitors, the inherent ways to deal with the problems and their root causes, and then find the key to solve the problems with the visitors.

Maybe someone here will think that since consultants always listen to me, I usually listen to my friends' cries and occasionally give useful advice. Can I also be a consultant?

　　 Cough, classmate, wake up, what's so beautiful?

No matter who wants to become a consultant, they must accept long-term systematic theoretical study and clinical training. Of course, it does not mean that it will be OK after being trained in school and obtaining a psychological consultant license. Instead, they should continue to learn from their original theory and practice, continue to receive retraining, continue to hone, continue to accumulate case ability, and improve their working ability. At the same time, we should carry out long-term and stable personal experience and supervision to deepen our understanding and awareness of ourselves. Only in this way can we help our visitors more effectively. You should know that listening and empathy mentioned above are only basic in psychological counseling.

And one more thing, consultants are not advisors.

It is often felt that psychological consultants provide professional advice to clients after they have confided their troubles and perplexities. If visitors get a good suggestion, they can solve the problem.

But the truth is not what you think.

The consultant does have some analytical methods on some issues, and the final choice and whether the client can do it is the result of his/her continuous understanding and understanding of himself/herself.

For example, will the counselor advise clients suffering from depression to "not think too much, not to think"? can't! Why? Because consultants deeply understand their involuntary behavior, they can't do this at this moment. The greater help of psychological counseling is that the accompanying visitors can really have the strength to achieve the so-called "advice" or "truth".

To sum up, the main job of a psychological consultant is to help clients understand themselves, break their limitations, and then give play to their personal potential, to deal with problems in life, to make the best decisions for themselves, and to adopt better coping methods.

I have written so much, but it is only the fur of some psychological counseling and psychological counselors.

After a close contact with a psychological consultant, Xiao Bian deeply felt the difficulty of psychological counseling.

The basic step of understanding and empathy with visitors is not as simple as imagined. For example, meeting very paranoid visitors, narcissistic personality, domestic violence, etc. may cause consultants to have a very negative feeling towards visitors, which is not conducive to work. What would consultants do in such a situation? This involves the consultant's handling of negative empathy. There is too much knowledge here. Xiao Bian should continue to hold his thigh tightly.

As for psychological consultation, this article can only give you a general idea. If you want to have a deeper understanding, you can continue to pay attention to what we have heard about psychological consultation, and take you into a broader and broader world of psychological consultation.