"Is it wrong to ask the senior son who has depression to make progress?"
When a father was chatting with a depressed child in senior three, his father unilaterally output, accusing the child of using depression as an excuse to escape school and indulge himself.
Therefore, the father felt that the child should actively face difficulties and be ambitious. He asked the child to adjust himself and go back to school as soon as possible.
When a child suffers from depression, the parents feel anxious and can understand the child's state without understanding the disease of "depression". But the more the parents criticize and preach, the more likely it is to aggravate the child's condition. Moreover, depression is really like what the father said, just a pretense? Is it just an excuse for the child?
In fact, depression is a common psychological disease. Depressed patients will have the following manifestations:
01 Significant and lasting depression
It is difficult to have a happy mood and get pleasure from the things you are interested in. The depressive mood has obvious changes in morning and evening.
On the basis of low mood, patients will have lower self-evaluation, feelings of uselessness, hopelessness, helplessness and valuelessness, often accompanied by self blame and self guilt.
Patients with severe depression may commit suicide by self mutilation, and some patients may have hallucinations and delusions.
02 Slow thinking
Consciously, the brain is hard to use, can't remember things, is difficult to think about problems, and is slow to respond. "The brain is like rust", which is the feeling of most depressed patients.
In serious cases, the patient's active speech is reduced, the speed of speech is slowed, the voice is small, and it is difficult to answer, and the dialogue process will be interrupted.
03 Decreased willpower
Inactivity or lack of motivation is an obvious manifestation of depression patients, and it is also a point that many parents cannot understand.
The patient's will activity is obviously inhibited, his behavior is slow, his life is passive and lazy, he does not want to do things, and he is unwilling to contact with people around him. Some patients stay in bed all day long, do not want to go out, alienate relatives and friends, and avoid social interaction. In serious cases, personal hygiene and personal needs cannot be met, or even become numb.
Some parents will see that their children are always hiding in the room, and they can't call out what they want, and they are not interested in learning. They even don't eat, drink, or bathe, and lie down all day.
In addition to these typical symptoms, the cognitive function of patients with depression will also be impaired, their memory will decline, it is difficult to focus, learning difficulties, obvious pessimistic thinking, and self denial. Some patients will also show obvious physical symptoms, such as sleep disorders, anorexia, physical discomfort, and sexual desire loss.
Young Psychologist Reminder, If parents do not know enough about adolescent depression, it is easy to misunderstand children. Just like the father, he thought that the child was escaping and indulging, not active enough, not ambitious enough, not brave enough. Such misunderstanding will make children feel not understood, but criticized. Moreover, children themselves have been in a state of pain, helplessness and despair due to depression, and parents' coercion, preaching and "persuasion" will make children fall into loneliness and despair.
If parents want to help their children, they should first learn more about their children and depression. If you want to cure a disease, you need to understand what went wrong. "The child is sick now, which is caused by depression". It is very important for parents to understand and help the child.
Because depression has different degrees and causes, parents can take their children to seek professional help in a timely manner. When a child is ill, sometimes it has a great relationship with his family. Psychological counseling can help the child to channel emotions and improve the way of family upbringing. For severe depression, drug treatment can be carried out in time to help children stabilize their condition.
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