On a rare quiet day in the entertainment industry, a bad news came in the middle of the night, shocking everyone. CoCo Coco Lee died.
The sunny, passionate, energetic singer Coco Lee, who is good at singing and dancing, died of depression at the age of 48!
It turned out that Coco Lee had chosen to commit suicide at home as early as July 2. After being sent to the hospital, she had been in a coma. After the hospital team made efforts to rescue and treat her, she finally died on July 5.
Coco Lee's sister said that she had suffered from depression many years ago.
But over the years, she has been pretending to be strong. Every time she appears on the stage, she is optimistic and cheerful, and never brings her negative energy to the audience.
On the very day of her suicide, she also sent voice messages from her fans saying, "Thank you for your love and support, and I will cheer you on!"!
Many people find it hard to accept this sad news. In people's impression, she is so talented, energetic, confident, cheerful and strong. How could she suffer from depression? How could she have come to this point if she hadn't been so desperate? What on earth would she have experienced?
Some people always seem to be giggling on the outside, but in fact, their hearts are already full of holes.
Like Coco Lee, she has always been in a positive and beautiful state when facing fans, but in fact, she has been exhausted physically and mentally.
In recent years, Coco Lee has disclosed on the social platform that she suffered from physical discomfort and great mental pressure.
Her throat once suffered from a serious condition, which led to loss of voice. Her left leg was defective and the operation was unsuccessful. Her marriage was unfortunate. She paid all for her feelings but was betrayed by a scum man. She has been suffering from disease and physical and mental devastation. She has also suffered many troughs.
These regrets and losses are all the hidden pains Coco Lee once refused to mention. She has been wearing a sunny mask for a long time, which has deceived everyone and seems to have deceived herself.
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Depression has become more and more familiar in recent years. Many celebrities have died because of depression, from Zhang Guorong and Chen Baiqiang in their early years to actor Qiao Renliang, famous musician Hai Feng, dancer Wang Di, etc. in recent years.
However, depression is still very easy to be ignored.
In particular, there are one "Sunshine depression" , also known as Smiling depression Some psychologists describe it as "people are happy in front, but they are depressed in the heart".
Although they seem to be sunny and positive on the surface, they are actually struggling in the vortex of depression every day. Under their sunny, positive and optimistic appearance, there is a depressed and painful heart.
"Smiling depression" does have many typical manifestations of depression, such as depression, decreased interest, increased sense of helplessness, low self-evaluation, and even suicidal tendencies.
But different from typical depression, patients with "smiling depression" do not look sad every day and lose the ability to work, study and communicate with others, but have better social functions and are even more active than ordinary people.
Here are six signs of "smiling depression".
1) From time to time, some pessimistic views will be revealed
Smiling is their usual disguise.
But a person's subconscious is often revealed unconsciously through his words and deeds.
He may often say the following words.
In behavior, they tend to be more evasive, especially afraid of trouble. They will be afraid to ask others for help or trouble others, even if it is a small thing.
2) Overwork
It is also a choice for many depressed people to paralyze themselves by working.
Divert your attention and let yourself have something to do, so that their thoughts will not have the energy to think about those things that make people upset.
However, excessive work will indeed empty them, and the increased intensity of fatigue will often lead to a decline in resistance to negative emotions, which will lead to the deepening of depression.
3) Negative energy of friend circle is 0
Sometimes, you clearly feel that TA's status is not right, but you can hardly find a trace of sadness in TA's circle of friends.
They have higher requirements for themselves, and they don't want their negative emotions to affect others. They just want to leave positive things for others.
4) Silently alienated from friends
Maybe you are usually very good friends, but I don't know why, but I feel that TA is silently alienating you.
You have been thinking about what happened, but you can't find the reason after thinking about it.
For patients with smile depression, they usually don't want others to notice their symptoms of depression, because showing their vulnerable side is really a particularly uncomfortable thing for them.
They also have a low willingness to ask for help from others. They feel that they should carry it silently and should not disturb others, especially those they care about.
5) Always out of state
You will find that he is easily distracted and difficult to concentrate It is very difficult to complete tasks, and even slower in speaking and acting, which is one of the symptoms of depression.
6) Become contradictory
The related research on smiling depression found that patients will show contradictory symptoms, often more difficult to make decisions, difficult to admit their depression, and do not seek or refuse help.
If the above signs of depression have been bothering you for more than 2 weeks, please seek professional psychological help in a timely manner, and do not let the smile close you in the depression world.
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Depression kills people virtually. Who is most likely to suffer from depression?
1、 Serious and stubborn perfectionist
In life, there is a kind of perfectionists who have critical self-evaluation and often worry about others' evaluation of themselves.
They usually set goals and requirements that are difficult to achieve, which leads to helplessness and frustration, anxiety and depression.
Those who pursue perfection excessively are very hard and tired. In modern society, the "elite" or literati stars with a high level in a certain field are the high incidence of depression.
Zhang Guorong and Qiao Renliang, who brought us happiness in front of the screen, were all killed by depression.
Coco Lee has mentioned in an interview more than once that she is a "perfectionist". She is very strict with herself. She is always energetic and smiling when facing the audience and working partners. However, few people deeply investigate how "perfectionists" are cultivated.
They are afraid that their reputation and public evaluation will be affected if they do not do well; At the same time, perfectionists are often stubborn and like to dig into the horns of an ox. They can't think through many problems thoroughly and can't get out of a blind alley.
In such a vicious circle, psychological pressure is increased, and people feel anxious, uneasy or even guilty for a long time. This depressed emotion cannot be alleviated, which naturally leads to depression.
2、 An introverted and sentimental person
People with introverted and sentimental personality traits are a group favored by depression. People with this personality have some characteristics,
For example, the inner world is delicate and rich, but it is not easy to confide in others, which will hide the pressure and negative emotions in the bottom of my heart;
Always need the care and attention of others. If you are ignored, you will be suspicious;
They don't directly express their thoughts, and always ask others to guess;
Pessimistic, like to complain, and sensitive to the subtle changes of people or things around.
Therefore, the emotional stress that ordinary people can easily cope with will multiply for those who are too sensitive.
Such personality characteristics will aggravate the stimulation of psychological stress events and interfere with personal handling of events, so it is easy to fall into anxiety and depression for a long time.
When encountering difficulties, such as serious loss, interpersonal tension, economic difficulties, or dramatic changes in lifestyle, depression will break out, and it is easy to develop major depression on the basis of this personality.
3、 Outgoing people
Depression is not the patent of introverts. Some people who appear to be "extroverted" are also prone to depression.
Just as Coco Lee's outgoing and positive image appeared on the public stage, she suffered from depression behind.
She is used to making fun of her family, helping others with laughter, covering up pain and hiding negative energy. As long as you laugh out loud, it seems that those pains never existed.
The expression of "positive extroversion" is not the natural expression of their emotions, but the concealment and suppression of their depressed emotions.
Some "extroverts" are kind-hearted people who care too much about others' comments, always show an optimistic and positive side in front of others, and will deliberately cover up their true feelings when they are upset inside;
Some people have to reluctantly repress and restrain themselves in front of the public to maintain their image of healthy mental state due to professional work.
They are often strict with themselves, do not allow themselves to be not good enough, work seriously and rigorously, and treat their friends with sunshine and warmth. But behind taking care of everyone's emotions, he ignores his own feelings and emotions. He left his smile to others and his pain to himself.
Faced with the extreme sense of powerlessness in their hearts, they became desperate and could no longer struggle. They had to defend themselves against great physical and mental pain by committing suicide to avoid endless terrible situations.
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Only by understanding depression can we prevent and cope with it. Depression is also a signal to remind yourself that the inner world needs attention.
If you find that people around you are likely to be depressed, the best way to help them is to be a person who does not criticize, gives full listening, and as a support force to accompany them through a period of dark time.
If you find yourself a member of "depression", I hope you understand that you are not a hypocrite. You can be sad or fragile. Please stop demanding yourself. It is not a wise way to carry it. It is not a disease that can be fought against only by will.
The way to treat yourself and life better is to seek professional diagnosis and help as soon as possible. The earlier the depression is intervened, the better the effect will be.
It's like drinking water when thirsty, and recovering when broken. As a physical and psychological disease, depression deserves a prescription seriously.
Finally, I hope CoCo can rest in peace and that she will have no pain in heaven.
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