What should children do if they fear going to school and find various reasons not to go to school?

Now it has been more than a month since school began, and children are gradually learning to adapt to school life. However, due to some special reasons, some children gradually become afraid of going to school and refuse to go to school for various reasons. Faced with this situation of children, many parents are puzzled, not knowing why children are afraid of going to school, not to mention how to restore their children to normal learning state. Psychological Counseling for Children Give you advice.

Xiaohua is in the second grade of primary school this year. When she first went to school, she was still fine. In the second half of the first grade, she began to be afraid of going to school. At first, I got the sympathy of my parents for the reason of headache, abdominal pain or general weakness. Later, if her parents forced her to go to school, Xiaohua would feel uneasy, pale, cold sweat all over her body, fast heart rate, shortness of breath, and even vomiting, abdominal pain, frequent urination, and urgency. If her parents agree that she will not go to school for the time being, Xiaohua's anxiety will be relieved immediately. However, children can't stay away from school. Sometimes parents have to coax or force their children to go. However, the children are afraid to face the teacher and be afraid of asking questions. If you are asked a question, your face will be red and hot, your palms will sweat, you will be flustered, or you will only stand up and not answer the question, or you will be tongue tied or stammer repeatedly. Now that the new semester has begun, Xiaohua's fear of school has become stronger. The teacher had to let Xiaohua's parents take their children to psychological counseling.

School phobia is a serious psychological disease of children. It refers to an emotional disorder in which children are abnormally afraid of the specific school environment and strongly refuse to go to school. It is a special type of phobia. It is mostly seen in primary school students aged 7-12.

Due to the existence of various unhealthy psychological factors, students are afraid of going to school and learning, and have a phobia, so it is also called "phobia". If forced to go to school, it will cause obvious anxiety and panic reaction. If it is not handled in time or properly, it may lead to learning disabilities and social adaptation barriers for students.

The later symptoms of school phobia are mainly as follows: (1) Domestic violence, such as not going to school by destroying things, attacking parents, self injury, etc. (2) Emotion is negative and tired. From the moment when I was allowed to stay at home, my mood calmed down and improved immediately, and later became depressed and sleepy. (3) Mental symptoms, such as auditory hallucinations, and even depression.

Nowadays, there is an international consensus that school phobia is a common emotional disorder, and that there are three peaks in the age of onset: (1) The first peak: 5-7 years old, which may be related to separation anxiety. Separation anxiety refers to an extreme anxiety reaction when preschool children are separated from their parents, especially their mothers, which is related to their poor independence and excessive attachment to their mothers; (2) The second peak period: 11~12 years old, which may be related to factors such as entering middle school, increasing homework, increasing pressure or changing schools to adapt to the new environment and interpersonal difficulties; (3) The third peak period: about 14 years old, it may be related to the development of juvenile characteristics, such as consciously growing tall, arms and feet growing up, appearing inflexible, the appearance of the second sexual characteristics, and emotional depression.

The incidence of school phobia among children is about 1%. It is reported that school phobia accounts for 60% of emotional disorders in outpatients. School phobia can occur in children with various IQ levels, and it is mostly found in women.

Therefore, when children are afraid of school and unwilling to go to school, parents should first talk with them, learn as much as possible about all the situations related to their schooling, and find out the reasons why children are unwilling to go to school. Attention should be paid to enlightening children. Do not think that children are "bad children", criticize and accuse children of "laziness and withdrawal", and do not use simple threats to force children to go to school to avoid aggravating their psychological trauma. Positive guidance is needed to cultivate children's trust in school and interest in learning. If the child has obvious anxiety symptoms or fears, parents should not be impatient, and should specifically ask a child psychologist for psychological counseling. And get the cooperation of teachers. Then, parents should wait patiently and accompany their children to eliminate or alleviate their anxiety symptoms. Whenever children make progress, they should be praised and rewarded in time to help them gradually adapt to school life.