Media: People Weekly, Issue 8, 2015 (March 23), World View, Profession column
Experts in this issue: Hear it, psychological counseling center Li Jianxue, chief consultant, senior hypnotist and senior marriage consultant
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The first time Li Jianxue hypnotized me was because he talked about hypnotic sensitivity in an interview. He was on the spur of the moment and said, "Do a test with you and you will know, OK?"
The room was not quiet. There were also his assistants and photographers. I still doubt that such an environment can not settle down. Li Jianxue has already stood up from the sofa, with his hands behind his back, and his khaki suit jacket opened, revealing a round beer belly. He looked away, and softly read in Mandarin with a slight accent: "When you sit up straight, stretch your hand to the same height, close your eyes, and I will let you imagine that I put a book on your left hand. That book is the kind of big words, hard paper shell. Have you imagined it, and tell me if you have."
I was anxious and rebelled against hypnosis
"If not, I will take the book off and put a red brick on your left hand. Can you imagine?"
"No." After several rounds, I even began to worry that if I could not hypnotize, I would embarrass him. As a result, my mental activities became faster and faster.
"Tie a rope on your right thumb. The rope is hanging from the air. There is a balloon on it. It is a red balloon floating in the air, pulling your right hand up. Imagine if you saw the balloon. You hold the red brick in your left hand, and it seems that you are tired and can't hold it..." He never seems to worry about whether I can be hypnotized, The situation described is more and more specific, and repeated several times with different narrative methods.
Just like a person jogging, the heart rate of the first part of the way is very fast and very tired, but after gradually adjusting, the breathing will become smooth and smooth. At the moment when I heard these hypnotic words, I suddenly felt similar to jogging. My heart was like a bouncing glass ball, and the height of each bounce was getting lower and lower. I began to listen carefully to what he said. I began to feel that there was weight on my left hand, and even a sense of soreness after weight bearing appeared, and it became more and more sour.
"Can you open your eyes and look at your hands and see if they are still flat?"
The results are obvious.
"That's a movie"
During the interview, he used to lean back on the sofa, cross his legs lightly, and spread and withdraw his palms with the content of his speech. This sitting posture can be maintained for several hours with his confident and stable language. Since he started his career in 1991, all the cases have been classified and filed in his brain. In addition to his profession's ability to explain things, he can automatically change his role as the main speaker every time.
"Let's put it this way. In fact, you are hypnotized all day long, as well as the things you usually use, including cosmetics, clothing, bags. You will buy a brand virtually because you watch TV and listen to the radio and hear some advertising words, that is, you are hypnotized by advertisements. Hypnosis is everywhere in life."
Such a simplified explanation obviously cannot satisfy the imagination of most people on the mystery of hypnosis. In the movie "The Master of Hypnosis", Xu Zheng plays a hypnotist who shakes a pocket watch to hypnotize Karen Mok, trying to use hypnotism to enter her mind. In variety shows, the body of the hypnotized becomes a "human bridge" with the instructions of the hypnotist, and an adult standing on it will not collapse.
"That's a movie." Li Jianxue does not reject such performances and movies He makes almost no absolute judgments about anything.
"Hypnosis actually reduces the level of consciousness and guides the hypnotized person to the open state of the subconscious through language." Through hypnosis, Li Jianxue lets smokers enter their own bodies to see smoke and fire, and lets extremely obese people who overeat see fat accumulated in their internal organs, Let migraine sufferers enter the brain to eliminate interference sources... These hypnotic ways that are closer to people's understanding of the category seem inconceivable through his perfect narration. But he thought that hypnosis was originally a kind of science, "the witchcraft or witchcraft mentioned before, burning a piece of Buddha paper and putting it in the water, some people would feel no pain after drinking it; some people would catch ghosts in the room, and after the demon hunter caught the ghost in front of you, he would be able to sleep, these are all hints."
"You have great control over the process of hypnosis?"
"I will consider each other's ideas more, so it is a way of cooperation for me to work with each other more."
"Have you ever failed?"
"We don't call it failure. When one method is not good, we will change it, because consultation is not a one-time solution."
Existence is reasonable
On the 30th floor of an office building in Guangzhou, the not too large room was divided into several treatment rooms. Li Jianxue's room was the innermost one, and when the door was closed, all the true stories of love and hate, darkness of human nature, and intrigue spread to his ears, isolated from the outside world. Assistant Xiao Tan can sometimes see a basket of paper towels crying. After the visitor left, Li Jianxue returned to his small office, calm in his ears.
From 1991 to now, Li Jianxue has received more than 20000 cases, accounting for the largest number of marital emotional problems, followed by children's education problems, as well as depression, fear and other neurosis. In his opinion, many marriage problems are actually personality problems. "I will not judge her whether her practice is right or wrong, because there is no right or wrong in this question, and the best one is the one that suits her, right?" Li Jianxue tells the case like blowing balloons that are about to be broken. Seeing that the ups and downs are about to blow out, he again "cunningly" relaxes, using reason to shrink the balloon of passion, holding a good sense of proportion.
As a father, one of his most touching cases is that a mother found her son's pillow with a knife and a suicide note, and planned in detail how to kill her family before committing suicide. At that time, the boy was less than 15 years old. He had been treated there for two years, and now he is studying in Britain. "The psychological counselor is helping others and helping themselves," he said. He never scolded his children. "We learn from psychology that existence is reasonable."
He forbids himself and his students to analyze people in life. If the husband and wife analyze each other, "They are good to me because they are ashamed of trying to please me, and the neighbor praises their children for saying that others are too inferiority, so they should shake it out. If you see everything through and analyze everything, what's the taste?"
Some professional habits of psychological consultants are rational and indifferent. "Those who come to consult are strangers when they walk out of this house." I do not understand this pure rational resolution. "They will treat you as a friend when they talk too much." His explanation is quick and cold: "He has feelings for consultants, not me." He will show a "commanding" smile when he answers confidently. His eyes and mouth will bend slightly, as if trying to add friendly elements to his decisiveness. "If you come for consultation and tell me the things that are most invisible, I will bring you great pressure in your life."
Li Jianxue's life is actually monotonous. Walk seven or eight minutes to work every day until eight or nine o'clock at night. In addition to occasionally going downstairs to play table tennis, he said that his interest was work and he regarded work as enjoyment. He said that he didn't have many friends, but he didn't think that this career had an impact on making friends. Just as he thinks that this profession needs a kind heart like a bodhisattva, his answers are all based on good intentions.
"Is there anything that can touch your personal bottom line?" A series of replies from him made me feel that I was breaking a grapefruit that was too delicate, making people constantly want to find out if every piece is so good.
"Maybe my life is too monotonous, and there is no chance of such conflict." In the previous interview, his calm was so unreal that until then, a short embarrassed and self mocking smile appeared on his face. There is also a soft part in the "pomelo", which solidly drops it from the height of the Bodhisattva to the earth's surface.
"Living is not a thing"
In the 1980s, Li Jianxue, who wanted to study clinical medicine, stumbled into the Department of Psychology of Tongji University, which meant that he was likely to be assigned to a mental hospital after graduation. After gradually liking the "happy school" of psychology, In 1991, he opened his own psychological consultation room. At that time, psychological consultation was not widely known in China. Hypnosis is a skill learned at your own cost. "It is relatively easy to get a certificate. After getting this certificate, it is still a long way from working."
Li Jianxue now charges 1000 yuan an hour. At the meeting just started, I couldn't afford to hire an assistant. People wouldn't accept 50 yuan an hour. Sometimes a person comes in a week and stops working immediately after hearing the price, "I haven't got the medicine, so why do you charge me 50 yuan?"
"Chinese people haven't seen a psychologist for thousands of years, but how can you do without seeing a doctor? Because you will die when you get sick. If you don't see a psychologist, you will suffer. People have no fun in life, and their sense of happiness is low. But if you are still alive, it is not a matter."
In the early stage, through public service promotion, business gradually began. After free experience, people began to pay 300 yuan at a time for 10 times. Now things are better. He is full of guests from morning to evening every day
Once again, the question that made Li Jianxue hesitant was "whether there were unhappy times". "I seldom have it, maybe I can't feel it." Sometimes if there is too much negative energy, he will also be immersed in sadness, "to clear himself."
